GRIT & GRACE

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/ / FREE FIELD CARD — SIX RED LIGHTS

EVERYTHING ON MY LIST IS A REASON NOT TO GO IN.

There is a door, and on the other side of it something is wrong. I have a few seconds before the decision gets made for me, and in those seconds I am barely thinking about what is behind the door — I am checking for open flame, I am checking there is a way in and a way back out, and I am looking at whoever is still upright in that room.

Six red lights, one gate, and no green light anywhere on the page

Not a protocol — nothing about what to do once you are inside a room

The half nobody teaches — a room multiplies in your favour too

Six pages. Print it and carry it — it is a field card, not a file

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​​T​HE DOORWAY CHECKLIST · SIX PAGES · FREE

WHAT'S ON THE PAGE

SIX RED LIGHTS / ONE GATE


// 01 / RED LIGHT

FIRE

Is there open flame, smoke, or anything that will become one while I am in there?

LIT / CLEAR
// 02 / RED LIGHT

THE WAY BACK OUT

Is there a way in — and a way back out that does not depend on nothing changing?

LIT / CLEAR
// 03 / RED LIGHT

SHARPS AND EDGES

Is there anything on the floor, on the furniture, or in a pocket that will cut me or stick me while my hands are busy?

LIT / CLEAR
// 04 / RED LIGHT

BLOOD

Am I looking at blood, and am I equipped for what that means for me?

LIT / CLEAR
// 05 / RED LIGHT

A NECK OR A SPINE

Does anything in this room — a fall, a height, a position, a vehicle — say neck or spine to me?

LIT / CLEAR
// 06 / RED LIGHT

THE PEOPLE STILL STANDING

Who else is in here, and what are they going to do while my hands are busy? A crowd is never just a crowd — which one is the resource, and which one is the problem?

LIT / CLEAR
// THE GATE

IF ANY LIGHT IS LIT, THE ANSWER IS NOT YET — AND NOT YET IS AN ANSWER.

The rooms with no casualty in them — the conversation, the confrontation, the contract

Anyone who responds — paid, volunteer, or because it happened in front of you

People who will write their own sixth, seventh, eighth light

A protocol, a procedure, or anything about what to do once you are inside

Permission to enter — six clear lights is the absence of red ones, not a green one

// THE CLOSE

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A gate that only ever says yes is not a gate. It is an excuse with good posture.


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IVAN RODRIGUEZ

GRIT & GRACE · VANCOUVER, BC

// THE ASK

I CAN'T GIVE YOU MY ANSWERS, BUT I CAN GIVE YOU MY QUESTIONS.

One email, and the card lands in your inbox. Then, now and again, a note from me on the work — the rooms, the questions, and the part the training does not cover.

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